I am Laxmi, 32 Yrs old work from home mom of 2.5 yrs old supernaughty
I am Laxmi, 32 Yrs old work from home mom of 2.5 yrs old supernaughty boy. I come from Recruitment Industry, after marriage I left working as i moved with my husband to a remote location where he used to work. Slowly he convinced me to start a Recruitment Firm and luckily we also got few clients (It was his dream to Start his own business) but he kept his job. 6 months into the marriage I got pregnant, but still I worked till my baby was born. Slowly I lost all my clients as I wasnt able to devote my time to work (first time motherhood, PPD and emotional imbalance). Then we moved to Delhi, he left his job, we put in every penny we had to book a flat in Delhi. He again took another job and since we were in financial stress, I took up work from home assignments from some recruitment companies.
Pls note that I am not very ambitious and my first priority is my kid. I want to take up taht much work only which I can handle alongwith my kid. My husband keeps me pushing to restart our recruitment firm which gets stressful for me. His all the conversation revolves around work and money only. we hardly speak to each other. most of the talks end up in discussions and then fights. Every vacation plan gets on delayed or postponed. I really want to work this out but he just doesnt understand my point of view. I have spoken my mind almost 100 times in last 3 yrs that I like life as whole. Only work cant be everything for me.
Pls let me know where i am going wrong. I just cant talk to anyone about this.
Regards 09 Jan 2017, 03:40pm
Hi Laxmi - it looks like a classic case of different priorities. He may feel stressed and is pushing the issue - and you clearly want to spend time with your child.
I want to ask you, besides trying to talk about the most stressful things - are you both taking time out to connect? Sometimes that can mean going out on a fun date night, cooking a special meal together, or doing something fun at home as a family. Stop the cycle of stress and look for connection. This can go a long way in easing the tension.
I also urge you to go out and make a life for yourself filled with hobbies and passions - even though you are a mom, maybe there are some things you can explore to make your own life more fulfilling. When you are happier overall his moods or concerns won't affect you as much.
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Hi Laxmi - it looks like a classic case of different priorities. He may feel stressed and is pushing